Sunday, October 28, 2012


Life is a journey full of uncertainty and that is one thing we can agree on, right? What is it about life that makes it so special? It is that uncertainty I am talking about. Life is full of surprises, isn't it? And after I look at everything around me, I appreciate it even more.

The best thing about life is not knowing what is coming next. All that matters is the present. The past is bygone. The future is something we do not know about. And somewhere we keep beating ourselves over what has already happened and what is going to happen. Why? Do we really need to worry so much about it? Why can't we simply enjoy the moments we have now rather than thinking about the past and the future?

I look around myself and I see people: worried people. Worried about their jobs, worried about their family, worried about their projects, worried about their children. Reasons unknown but all these worries start turning into frustration. When anyone approaches me, I ask him - Why are you frustrated? What frustrates you? Their answer is 'life.' These are some common dialogues you hear everyday. 'My life sucks', 'my life blows', 'I can't get a hold of my life.' Folks, let's clear this out of our way. It is not your life which is difficult. It is you being difficult on yourself. Frustration, desperation, emotion gets better of you and you start blaming your life. And part of it comes from not knowing what's coming. 

Speaking of future, isn't it good not to know what's coming? If you knew, would you be better prepared for your future? Would that bring any immediate change in your life? No, it won't. Be happy, be content. I know it's easier said than done but it's actually not that difficult. Be thankful for what you have, be firm on the ground you walk and let everything else take care of itself. Just for a while, forget everything. Take a deep breath, look in the vicinity and just relax!

Let's take a vow. Let's become that child again who smiles because of what he has and doesn't worry about what he may not be having. That's the best thing in life. Just be yourself and nothing else for a moment. Just say to yourself, "I am alive!"

6th sense: humor

From Wikipedia: Humour or humor is the tendency of particular cognitive experiences to provoke laughter and provide amusement. Well well, I just used a definition available on internet for humor. But is it that easy to define humor? Or understand it.

First of all, I think we can agree on one thing and that is not all have a sense of humor. Some people have it while others pretend to have one. I might be exaggerating but that's how I feel. Not everyone understands it. Not everyone can fathom it and not everyone can enjoy it. There are so many forms of humor. And everyone loves to laugh, isn't it? But everyone wants to laugh on someone else's expense. Can you laugh on yourself? Can you bear a joke directed towards you? Would you be hot under the collar if someone made a joke on you or took a dig at you?

Humor has so many forms and each form has its own appeal. Some may enjoy one form of humor more than some other forms. But everyone loves to laugh, isn't it? And that's the thing about humor. Some forms are particularly difficult to understand like a nice satire, deadpan delivery or simply sarcasm. But if understood, they can be so effective much more effective than. 

I am from teaching/training field and always thought that humor goes a long way in simplifying things while teaching. I believe that anyone tends to remember a good laugh than anything else. It's a practical thing. People around you would pay more attention to what you have to say when you are being hilarious. It's not an easy thing but always a way of generating more interest.

Just to finish things off, there is nothing like good humor. And it's not only the most popular way of entertainment but also the most difficult thing to perform and fathom. We don't need to dissect it but just appreciate and laugh at it. After all, you are the owner of your own mouth!

Sunday, October 14, 2012

Satisfaction V Contentment

So, my trainee approached me with his resignation. I asked why did he wanted to resign. "I am not satisfied with this job. I want to quit because I feel very dissatisfied. I think this place is not a fit for me." was exactly what he told me. And as usual, it got me thinking. Satisfaction. Is it overrated? Is it ever possible to be satisfied with your life, with your work or whatever you are doing? I have a job and I have experienced dissatisfaction at various points in my career. But I didn't quit. And I know a lot of people at my work place who aren't completely satisfied with what they are doing, but they are sticking anyhow. 

What satisfies someone? Doing what they want may be? Or achieving what someone wants in his or her life may be? But the question is: Can someone be completely satisfied? Can you actually be satisfied by what you have achieved? And what if you do not achieve it? 

Everyone has some dream, some motivation, something worth working for. Something which when you do, you feel satisfaction. But as a human being, I feel there is no way you can be completely satisfied. You work on and for something and you keep your fingers crossed, hoping that you'll successfully complete it and achieve that satisfaction that you were aiming for. But I feel you can't be satisfied. But wouldn't that become a paradox then? You can't be satisfied and you can't give up something because you are not satisfied. Then what is the solution? How can you be not satisfied and still keep on working with something you are not satisfied with?

The keyword here is being content. That's the state I believe is something which lies between being completely satisfied and not being satisfied but still going on. Sometimes, you may not achieve what you are aiming for. But for that moment, you can be content with what you achieved, what you got out of your effort. You can live with yourself and still keep on working. Of course, this is only my opinion. But won't you be rather content for the time being rather than completely satisfied? You look at a kid who may not be satisfied with what his father bought him for birthday, but is content because he at least got something. Would this approach help? Would you be content and keep working on for what truly satisfies you? 

That's what I believe in. Being content for the time being, keep working on what you want in your life and keep your fingers crossed that one day, you'll achieve that true satisfaction you've been longing for.

Sunday, October 7, 2012

Social Networking

I've been very active on Twitter lately. More than I've been on Facebook. Now both of these are primary examples of our social networking sites, aren't they? We post status messages, we tell people what is on our mind, we tell everyone where we are. It has become a an integral part of our social life, or I should rather say, our life.

We may not have a penny in our pocket, but we have at least one active internet plan so that we can access our 'social networks' on the go. That poses a question. What is social network? Is it these networking sites? Do we actually value our social networks? Is everything limited to the internet now?

There are so many questions, but the answers lies somewhere in ourselves. Somewhere, I believe, we have become more disconnected than ever. Instead of simply networking, it has become a popularity contest. It's no more about connecting with out old friends or making new ones. Somewhere it is about statistics. Someone asked me about my friend count on one of the social networks. It was a weird question for me. What does it matter how many friends or followers I have? isn't it about me connecting with my old friends or connecting with some like minded person? 

That is not all. Look at the promotional material we have on our social networks. It has become a hell of way of advertising. And I understand that. Companies will look for revenue from any and everything. Isn't a business all about profit? But somewhere it has become more about business than social networking. Advertising is no longer limited to a footnote or banner. It has become more that this. 

Social Networking is good and social networking is bad. But no way it was ever supposed to be a popularity contest. It was never about how many friends you have. It is supposed to be about how you connect with the people you think are important to you. I just wish that we come back to that.